There are soldiers and there are soldiers—and then there is Maj. Ian Cardozo retd —a fauji born every once in a blue moon. A man of monumental courage and rare spirit-in these jaded times, he stands tall as an undisputed hero for generations to come. That he cut off his own injured leg with a khukri is military legend; that he became the first war-disabled officer to command a battalion and then a brigade is common knowledge too. But only a few know that post retirement he served as the Chairman of the Rehabilitation Council of India from to , and is a keen marathon runner, making sure to regularly take part in the Mumbai Marathon on his prosthetic limbs. Subsequently, he was trained in the Indian Military Academy, from where he was commissioned into the 5th Gorkha Rifles. In the course of the Indo-Pak War of , his battalion was deployed in the eastern theatre of operations. The battalion's second-in-command was killed in action and Cardozo was ordered to replace him. He arrived at his battalion in time to accompany them on the Indian Army's first heli-borne operation during the Battle of Sylhet. After the fall of Dhaka, he happened to step on a landmine, leading to severe injury on his leg.
He was the first war-disabled officer of the Indian Army to command a battalion and a brigade. He studied at St. Xavier's College, Mumbai. He is the first NDA cadet to receive both Gold and Silver The gold medal is given to the cadet of the passing out course for best all round performance. The silver medal is given to the cadet who is first in order of merit.
We are trying to conceive now, and I am contemplating if this was the right path for me. It sucks to admit, but I broke up with him after 6 months because I didn't think there was any point if we couldn't be together forever. Thank you so much for your comment. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. It may change your relationship to them forever. I was spiritually prepared to receive the answer that I sought.
Also, I'm not involved with a doctor but I am an RN and spend quite a bit of time with them. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. My surgeon husband of 12 years just made himself a "free agent" when he cheated on me and our three kids with a gal 12 years his junior. I constantly have to reprioritize my kid, work, other activities. Maybe more convinced than you are. I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable.