Husbands and wives are puzzled, hurt, and frustrated because their spouse either refuses sex or will have sex only on rare occasions. If you have worked hard to be understanding, kind, clean, attractive, affectionate, patient, an initiator, etc. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
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I feel a need to address both women and men on this matter, because it DOES matter. Both feel very strongly about this part of their marriage. But it also addresses what it is like for the man to be refused. It is a gigantic issue, if your sex life is unfulfilled.
I’m not opposed in principle.
My feelings are all over the place. We have been married for 25 years and sex was great at first. But five years ago I was diagnosed with diabetes and can no longer get an erection. Send an email to problems deardeidre. Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.
These feelings built up over a few years, and when we were drunk one night, I told her. She said she felt the same. Later we met and chatted, but the net result is, because of her friendship with my wife, nothing could happen. She is now in another relationship and has moved on. I think she represents everything that is missing in my current marriage — the spark for me has gone. Is this normal for a marriage of 10 years?